“Regardless of Jon’s fitness as a parent, he has a right to be acknowledged as the biological parent, despite its inconvenience to Mr. Ricketts.”

Should read:

“Regardless of JAMES’s fitness as a parent, he has a right to be acknowledged as the biological parent, despite its inconvenience to Mr. Ricketts.”

To Typical Momma:

I won’t hyperlink my website on your blog since you find it so awful and reprehensible. Of course those descriptions should really be reserved for lying to children and denying a father access to his son. Oh wait…I’m just the “biologically involved father” guess that makes me a secondary father in your book. Look I’ve admitted that the affair was wrong BUT I won’t be second class anything to my son. Julia Ricketts 2nd husband is my son’s step-father NOT his daddy or father.

FYI…the website was created to shine the light on the truth! Julia and her husband lied to the Courts and legal community about the facts for months and months. I had to combat their lies if I were to stand any chance in seeing my son. Is it hard for the Ricketts to be reminded of the affair and my fatherhood? I sure hope so! I hope they never forget what they’ve done. For everyday I’m left to wonder, hope, and pray my little boy is okay. I haven’t seen him for over a year, and due to no fault of my own. But let’s cry about a website and some media attention.

Am I a bad person for having an affair? Sure. But does that make me any less of a father? Does that make me not love my son? Anybody that has a problem with me using everything at my desposal to put out the truth and make my son’s captives feel uncomfortable….go a year without seeing your child and go a couple of years without getting any information on your child’s safety and development. And let your child’s mother and her husband lie to everyone in the judicial system as to cut you out of your child’s life.

And then say how disgusting you think a website with pictures, video, and documents attesting and proving who you say you are is in fact true!!!

I agree that your logic is flawed. A child benefits best when all involved parents can be active in his or her life in a health and fit way.

So. if there is a concern on the stablity of the parenting of Mr. Rhoades, why not give a third party the ability to monitor and help facilitate a health relationship between the child and his biological father? Would this not resolve the issues at hand?

Second, I know first hand what it feels like to find out that your spouse has been unfaithful in that marriage. I know how incredibly hard it is to get past the anger, hurt, and fears that come along with that realization. Depriving Mr. Rhoades of a relationship with his son will NOT resolve those feelings, in fact, they will allow him only to hang on to the hurt and pain that goes hand in hand with that situation.

What Julia and James did was wrong! However, consequences of actions have occured and innocent people such as Mr. Ricketts and this child are and will be effected. Now is the time that these adults own up to the consequences and find a healthy balance for all people involved.

-d

I’m not sure what your relation to the Rickett’s family is. I have no relation to any party involved in this.

However, as a stepmother for 6 years AND someone who has given a great deal of her life in those years to raise someone else’s biological children, I find your logic flawed.

Regardless of Jon’s fitness as a parent, he has a right to be acknowledged as the biological parent, despite its inconvenience to Mr. Ricketts.

Further, I fail to understand Mr. Ricketts undying desire to raise a child that is not his. While I fully understand the love you can have for someone else’s children (I love my stepsons very much), I will never understand how ANYONE could think that it is loving to lie to and deny a child contact with his/her biological parent.

This is a tragic story, but the adults in this situation have had many opportunities to pick up the pieces for this little boy and do the best by him now. A family held together by lies (the lie being told to this little boy) will crumble quicker than one cemented by hard truths and love.

As a stepparent, I am insulted that Mr. Ricketts chooses to diminish the loving and important role he could have in this little boy’s life by pretending to be something he is not. No amount of wishing, foot stamping and crying will EVER make him this little boy’s father. Furthermore, with each day that he pretends that he is something he is not, he is driving a bigger wedge in his family and perpetuating a lie that will eventually cost him the trust and respect of his stepson.